A line in my devotion this morning went like this; “A committed relationship demands you take the risk of the unexpected.” -Daily in His Presence devotional
I wonder how many of us even thought of that when we took marriage vows, or simply committed to a friendship? Anything can happen in life, even the things we think only happen to other people. Life can go sideways and make huge demands of us; emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, spiritually. Life can drain us.
What do we do then? When we feel like we’ve given all we have to a relationship, do we give up and walk away? When someone needs more than we think we have to give, do we quit on them? A true commitment demands otherwise.
In order to continually give, we must continually be filled up. Filled up with what? With love, patience, grace, hope, and energy – just to name a few. You’ve heard stories of caretakers burning out because they were too busy taking care of someone else to care for themselves? I think that’s true in every kind of relationship. We are all caretakers of some kind. We take care of each other in marriage, in friendship, in a family . . . so, we need to take the time to care for ourselves.
The best way I have found to do that is to spend some quiet time in the presence of God. He is the source of all we need to maintain all of our commitments with integrity. In His Presence is fullness of joy (Psalm 16:11). Spending time in His Word, listening to worship music, praying, journaling – all practical ways that I keep myself filled with the love of God, so that I can love others with His love.
Do I do this perfectly? No. I do, however, do it almost every day. He is my Rock and my Salvation and He keeps me in perfect peace when I keep my focus on Him. I don’t think I could do this life without Him. As I recently heard someone say, “He’s not my crutch, He’s my stretcher!” I love that because Jesus is my Refuge, my Rescuer, and my Strong Tower to which I run when things get scary. And this world can be REALLY scary!
God’s commitment to me allows me to keep my commitment to others; to my husband, to my children, to my friends. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to run away in my 25-years of being a Christian wife and mother. My relationship with Jesus Christ has kept me anchored and sane. His love flowing in and through me allows me to risk the unexpected and be truly committed to my commitments.